10 Year Plan and 6 Months Abroad

I am going to be married by 23 and have kids by 27.

When I was in high school that was part of my “10 year plan.” Having just turned 23, I can’t help but laugh. Although I think it is perfectly acceptable to get married at 23, “high school me” would have never guessed that “23 year-old me” would be backpacking around the world and have no idea what country I will be in one month from now. Life is wild.  

I left the United States just over six months ago and lived in Nanjing, China for four months studying Mandarin Chinese. These past few months I have been completely slacking on blogging. Sorry, Mom. I like to blame increased restrictions on the internet around the time of 十八大. Oh, Chinese government. I also have been busy travelling almost every weekend taking trains around China. Since my last post, I have visited close to ten cities (Xi’an, Dunhuang, Lanzhou, Xining, Yujiaxia, Shanghai, Beijing, Zhenjiang, Taishan). I wrote my last post right when we came back from a week-long trip on The Silk Road. I may do a post on them eventually or let me know if you want to visit any of those cities. I will give you advice based on my limited experience. 

Before I left Texas, my family agreed to meet me in a foreign country for the winter holiday. After the completion of my language program in Nanjing, we spent two weeks driving around beautiful New Zealand. I agree with my sister’s friend who said every inch of New Zealand is gorgeous. There is no “scenic route” because it is all scenic.  It was a welcoming change from the severe pollution in China. I honestly have not the sky that blue and the sun that bright in months. Depressing.

We spent most of our time on the south island which is larger and less populated. There are about 4.4 million people in New Zealand and 1 million on the south island. There are approximately 4 sheep per person on the island. 

Disclaimer: I hate that nothing I say and the pictures I take can do these places and experiences justice. When people ask me what I am up to or how I am doing, I feel that I have to condense my experiences into a concise summary. I feel a bit silly blogging. I would much rather sit with you in a small café and talk over a soy chai tea latte. Alas, my poor writing and sad pictures are the best I can do for now. Lo siento. (I have been posting pictures on Facebook. I will add pictures to this post hopefully in the next city.)

Back to NZ… Nelson is one of the most beautiful cities I’ve ever visited. We spent a day kayaking in the Abel Tasman National Park. 

The small township of Franz Josef was one of my favorite stops along the trip. We took a short helicopter ride up to the Franz Josef Glacier were we spent three hours exploring the ice.  

I am terrified of heights, the stomach drop feeling you get when you fall, and falling to my death. Naturally, I decided to go skydiving in Queenstown. I actually was not scared until my instruction pushed us out of the plane at 12,000 feet. It was a unique experience to not only skydive for the first time but also have a stunning background. I realize that I am not looking at the photographer in many of the photos because I am too busy checking out the view. It was a perfect ending to our winter family vacation.

To ring in the New Year, here are 13 things I am grateful for:

1.       My mom encouraging me to turn down my job offers to go travel and my sister telling me I would be an idiot if I turned down the opportunity. Thank you times a million.

2.       Studying Mandarin in Nanjing. My four-month language program has been life changing. I knew that it would impact my Chinese proficiency but I foolishly did not consider the impact it would have on my cultural identity. I have always felt Texan, American, and then Chinese, in that order. I know identify more with the Chinese culture and yearn to continue learning the language. Through improving my Chinese, I have increased my understanding of Chinese culture. I love learning Chinese proverbs and Confucius sayings. I find it fascinating that you can say so much with just a handful of characters. The majority of proverbs are four characters, and they each have a story. I am so nerdily excited about my proverb story book I bought online. I hope I can understand it. (It is meant for Chinese students in middle school.)  Oh and James, thanks for telling me not to study in Beijing. I cannot handle pollution. Nanjing is a great city to learn Mandarin because there are fewer foreigners and you cannot rely on English to get by. 

3.       Messaging Apps. Although there is no replacement for face-to-face interaction, Google chat, Facebook, Kakao, WeChat, and WhatsApp help me keep in touch with classmates, family, and friends. I think everyone should use WeChat. You can send voice messages, pictures, and videos for free. It is pretty awesome.

4.       Going to New Zealand with my family. New Zealand is one of the most beautiful places in the world, and it was nice to catch up with my family. I was so glad to be able to hug and kiss them.

5.       My family bringing me things from the States. When I was living in China, people asked me what I missed from home. I missed people, salads, and Luna Bars. Amanda, thank you for bringing Luna Bars for me and my friend.

6.       Airports. (Love Actually!) They are such emotional places which can be good or bad. I am always excited to be in an airport because it means I am about to start a new adventure. On December 29^th, I went to the Auckland, New Zealand airport with my family. They sang “Happy Birthday” to me in the terminal and I walked them to their gate. My mom, dad, and sister were heading to LAX together and I had a flight to Bangkok.

7.       Two of my classmates from Nanjing. They planned a 20 day excursion through Southeast Asia and I bought a flight to Bangkok last minute to join them. I hate planning and they love it. Perfect! They have come up with an awesome itinerary and I am just along for the ride. I also feel that during the semester I did not get to know them as well as I would have liked and this is a great opportunity to hang out with some awesome people while exploring new countries. What else could you ask for? Also, some people tell me it would be dangerous to travel around Southeast Asia alone as a girl. I do enjoy traveling alone but also enjoy traveling in a small group.

8.       Deciding to meet my friends in Thailand instead of staying in New Zealand. I was tempted to not get on my flight to Bangkok. I have already gushed about how gorgeous New Zealand is and naturally it was hard to leave such a beautiful place. I considered staying in New Zealand for a few months doing odd jobs to fund my travels. The country is small but there is much to see. Many of the people we talked to were staying there for at least two months or more.

I always joke that I pick the path of most resistance. I like challenges and do things the hard way. I thought it would be “too easy” to work and travel around New Zealand. I love learning about cultures that are strikingly different from the States. I love language barriers and trying to find ways to communicate. One of my favorite memories from South Korea was when I tried to act out “anti-inflammatory medicine” to the pharmacist. Yeah, that didn’t work out. We are only a few days in and I am already having a blast in Southeast Asia.

9.       My backpack. If you go backpacking, I recommend that you invest in a good backpack. If you are carrying a heavy load for a long period of time, you want that thing to be as comfy as possible. Mine also has a hot removable fanny pack. Win.

10.   Learning about new cultures.

11.   Open air transportation like ferries and tuk tuks. I totally understand why dogs stick their heads out the window.

12.   Memories I have made in 2012.

13.   Excited about 2013. 

 I am the luckiest girl in the world.

Statements like that automatically make me think of engagements and weddings. No, I am not engaged but I consider myself pretty darn lucky. I have had some amazing experiences and I am grateful for each one. 

My Chinese Zodiac sign is the snake and 2013 is my year. Happy New Year, y’all. 

Love from Phnom Penh,

Kat

PS. If we have wifi in the next hostel, I promise I will write a post about Southeast Asia.

3 Month Abroad, 2 Months in China, 1 Week in South Korea

I love when things just happen to work out. Two weeks before the Mid-Autumn Festival, my classmates and I booked tickets to South Korea. I didn't realize it at the time but our tickets were for the day after the Mid-Autumn Festival. The festival is traditionally spent celebrating with family. I am grateful I got to eat dinner with my host family (and extended host family) before heading to South Korea with three of my classmates for the week-long national holiday.

An estimated 340 million Chinese people traveled during the holiday. Many Chinese people take this time to hit up tourist attractions. We decided to skip the crowds and take advantage of the opportunity to go to another country.

The night before we left, we didn't know whether our tickets were for a train or airplane and then when we figured that out, the company told us our train tickets had already been used. What? How is that possible if the ticket was for the next day? I still don't quite understand. The next morning, we ended up leaving for the train station at 5am in case we ran into problems to with our tickets. We got our train tickets without a problem. Whew. Things happened to work out.

After taking a train to Shanghai, we flew into Busan, South Korea. The cheapest tickets we found had us flying into Busan and out of Seoul. We did not do much planning before we left but somehow managed to pack our days with interesting and activities.

I have gotten accustomed to traveling alone and had to adjust to going along with the things other people wanted to do. My group's version of Busan and Seoul was much different than how I would have experienced South Korea if I was alone.

I insisted on going to the Jagalchi Fish Market because I heard you could eat octopus that was so fresh it was still moving. Success. A fishmonger pulled an octopus from a tank, chopped it up, and threw it on sesame seeds, soy sauce, and green onions. The tentacles were still moving the entire time it took us to finish it. The suction things on the legs made the tentacles stick to the plate and then the inside of our mouths. It is quite an interesting experience. I recommend it if you get the chance. The fishmonger asked where I was from and after I said Texas he told us how he is a Texas Rangers fan. Small world, eh?

We also went to The Busan Aquarium but my favorite attraction was The Beomeosa Temple located on the edge of Mt. Geumjeongsan. Do yourself a favor and look up photos of the temple. I am having technical difficulties and cannot create a hyperlink. This temple has the most gorgeous view. Chinese people love the juxtaposition of mountains and water and this was just perfect.

After a quick day and a half in Busan, we took at 5am train to Seoul. We happened to buy the last four tickets on the train right before it sold out. See? Things just work out sometimes. It was nice to get into the Seoul so early that we had that entire day to spend there. One of my classmates is on the skiing team at his school. He saw that Seoul had indoor skiing so the first day in Seoul, we went skiing. In September. Indoors. Crazy.

The next day we signed up for a half-day tour of the DMZ. I was particularly excited about this and it was my main motivation for going to South Korea. I am interested to go to North Korea, but every time people tell me that they say "Sure, you can go. You just can't come back." We did walk a section of the third tunnel that connects South and North Korea. North Korea claims they dug 20 tunnels but South Korea has only found four. Creepy.

We also happened to be in Seoul for Psy's free Seoul Style concert. We partied with 80,000 Koreans. I had no idea what he was singing about or saying, but the energy was electric. He was so humble and appreciative of his fans. He was in awe of the crowd that showed up to watch him perform. Man, I wish I could have understood what he said.

Originally, we were going to go to South Korea with our Korean-American classmate. Because he changed his plans, we ended up traveling around without a translator. It was my first time going to a country where I do not speak the language at all. I only knew three phrases. I learned how to say "Do you want to die?!" and "Do you want me to hit you?" from My Sassy Girl and in college my friend taught me how to say "Come here, pretty boy." I was told these three phrases would not be very useful. I just about died laughing when I heard someone yell "Do you want to die?" in Korean at the Psy concert. 

Not many people spoke English and I felt like such an asshole for not speaking their language. However, I did have some fun playing charades. I attempted to act out anti-inflammatory. Yeah, that one didn't quite work. Although, I was able to use charades to bargain. Mom, you should be proud of me. I am learning to bargain and you are right, you can bargain anywhere and everywhere.

Being in South Korea for a week was a nice change of pace. It was quieter -- I appreciated that people rarely used their car horns. We didn't get run over and squished to death on subways. The passengers getting on the subway let the other passengers exit first. There was no pushing and shoving (besides at the Psy concert.) I would love to go back to visit. I have also been researching how to visit North Korea. Whenever I say I want to go, people tell me "Sure, you can go. You just can't come back." As an American citizen, it is possible! Just tricky...and expensive.

I am still unable to post pictures to my blog, but I will put them up on Facebook.

Three things I am grateful for:
1. My teacher told me about a program in Guangzhou that has everything I have been looking for. I was about to apply for a well-respected and well-known program and I went to talk to my teacher to ask for a recommendation letter. I happened to ask him about other programs and the one he recommended is not only less than 9,000 yuan (1440 USD) opposed to 13,000 USD (81300 yuan), but I can simultaneously take Cantonese and Mandarin classes. The class is tailored for people of Chinese descent that grew up in other countries.
2. I am constantly learning about Chinese customs. This is one of the main reasons I am in China. Growing up in the U.S., I missed out on being surrounded by Chinese culture. I was in the program director's office and I noticed there was a shrink wrapped egg. I just learned that when Chinese people are expecting, they give out eggs to their friends as a way of spreading the good news. Also, my friend passed a graduate school entrance exam and she was giving out lollipops. She told me it is custom for people to give out candy when they get good news or something good happens to them. I love this idea of spreading the love.
3. Chinese friends have been helping me purchase things online. Online shopping is cheap and convenient but you usually need a Chinese bank card. Also, the amount of Chinese and the amount of stuff you can buy on TaoBao intimidates me.

You know the feeling where you are in a stupid happy mood for no particular reason at all? You know how sometimes out of nowhere a smile seems to just creep onto your face?

There is nothing like having a goofy grin on your face--feeling happy not because something good just happened but smiling just because you feel happiness bubbling out of you.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

What is this? What happened? Oh, that's China for you.

I have been in China for 5 weeks now (not counting being in Hong Kong for two weeks prior to Nanjing). Whenever we cannot figure out the logic behind something or find something particularly unusual and ask "WHAT?!" The answer is usually "Oh, it is China." This is a short list of things I still find strange.

1. Public urination

Sure, when you gotta go, you gotta go. I can understand that. But when babies wear crotchless pants so they can pee whenever they like and when mothers tell their young kids to pop a squat in the middle of the subway station, I do not understand. I have been to China before and seen kids peeing on trees outside...but in a subway station?! Before you ask, for obvious reasons I cannot post pictures of kids peeing in inappropriate places. Lo siento.

When I was in Hong Kong, a friend was talking to me about public urination and defecation in China. In broad daylight, her friend saw a grown man pull down his pants and squat to take a poop. She said, "You could see everything. 前邊有一條, 后邊有一條。" So gross. 

 2. Crazy flavors

When I was at the grocery store, I saw a container of gum that had three different flavors. Cool! You get variety. I should be more careful when grocery shopping.  When I tried the first piece of gum I felt like Veruca Salt eating Willy Wonka's gum. I didn't realize it at the time but the three flavors were: 1. lemongrass peppermint 2. lavender peppermint 3. cucumber peppermint. 

I wouldn't have been able to read the entire label but I do know the word 草 means grass. I probably should have avoided a container of gum that had the character 草 on it three times. I also didn't really look at the pictures. Oops.

There are lots of interesting flavored chips. I do not eat chips but may have to try some out. 

3. Fruit platters in nightclubs

Many nightclubs here only have bottle service. When you buy a bottle of liquor, it comes with a beautiful plate of fruit. My friend said the only time he eats fruit is when he is out clubbing. I'm not hating on the fruit plates because I love me some fruit. I just think it's strange and funny. Most of the people at the club are smoking, getting drunk, and eating fruit. Does anyone else think that's weird? 

4. Whitening creams

I understand why they have this in stores. I guess the American in me thinks it is strange. Also, using chemicals to make your face whiter can't be good for you. The other day I was at the store buying body wash and didn't want to spend time reading labels. Body wash is body wash, right? No. I'm glad I glanced at the description because it was a body wash meant to whiten your skin. Pass. 

5. School on Saturday

We do not have school next week because of the national holiday. (People don't have to work either.)  Because we will be missing a whole week of school, we had to make up that class today. In the states, if we miss school because of a holiday, we don't have to make it up. In China, we have a week off of school... but you still have the same number of classes. Oh well, I can't complain. We have a week vacation and it is only once. My poor little sister has school every Saturday. 

6. Traffic patterns

 I highly doubt I will ever have enough cojones to drive a car here. Pedestrian zebra lines are painted on the ground as more of a formality than an actual demand for drivers to stop. I can understand because if they stopped for every pedestrian, they would never be able to get anywhere. 

It is common for cars to avoid hitting pedestrians by swerving and driving on the wrong side of the road into oncoming traffic. Oh, hell no. I get scared when I am in the cab and the driver does this. 

Practically none of the people on bikes, mopeds, or scooters wear helmets. I never wear a helmet in the states but sometimes I feel like I should here. I have gotten hit thrice in the past week-twice by people on bikes and once by someone on a scooter. I hope I do not break that record. Every time it is because they turned without looking or just didn't see me. I have been trying to keep more distance but it is hard when there are so many people on the road. I am convinced the metal basket on the front of my bike is not meant to hold things but instead meant to serve as a protective shield.

I figured after getting hit three times, it was finally time for my bike tune-up. Mom and Dad, my brakes finally work! It feels like I'm riding a different bike. I don't have to death grip my brakes, they are much more responsive now. He also changed some old rusty parts all for 28 yuan (4.46 USD). I definitely should have done this a month ago. 

7. Firecrackers

Chinese people love firecrackers. During class we hear them go off all the time. At the beginning of the semester our teacher explained it to us. He noticed that we were distracted by the noise but he had toned it out. He said that Chinese people set off firecrackers for happy occasions-someone just got married, someone had a baby, store's grand opening, store's grand re-opening, etc. It used to be ultra distracting but now I just smile when I hear them. Somebody nearby had something happy happen to them. Mazel tov!

Three things I am grateful for:
1. National Holiday!
I am going to South Korea with three of my classmates. I wanted to make it to North Korea but I don't think that is going to happen this time around. None of us know any Korean, and we haven't started planning. We are going to have a planning session tomorrow and then we leave the day after. Whee being young and spontaneous. 
2. Yesterday, I went to teach English at a migrant school. It was my second week teaching and this time I was on my own. Class went better than I could have hoped for and it was so fun. I was a bit tired after a long week but knew I could feed of their energy. I taught them body parts by singing "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes." We also learned prepositions to incorporate this week's lesson with last week's lesson. Each time we teach at the school, swarms of kids ask for our autographs afterwards. It is still strange to me. I'm thinking our foreigner novelty charm will wear off after a few weeks. 
3. Skype
I meant to spend the morning working hard to get all my homework done before we leave for Korea. Instead I Skyped several friends and family members. Worth it. I always love Skyping with people from home.

Random: I think it is funny that I couldn't find a Chinese translation for "YouTube" or "Facebook." That would make sense seeing as how they are banned. 

Peanut Men, Hot Chicks, and Bike Accidents

I have been in China for a month now. I hope my Chinese has improved drastically but who knows. I still make silly mistakes everyday. Today, I accidentally said, "He may be a peanut (花生 huā shēng)" instead of saying "He may be unfaithful (花心 huā xīn)."  Oops.

Many terms in Chinese are composed of two characters (1 English word = 2 Chinese characters) and I find it interesting to see how different combinations of characters lead to different meanings. I mentioned this in a previous post but I have to share a phrase I recently learned. 辣 (là) means spicy, 妹 (mèi) means younger sister, and together 辣妹 means hot chick, sexy girl, or The Spice Girls. 

One more quick Chinese lesson before I move on. 爱上 (ài shàng) means to fall in love with or to be in love with but 哀伤 (āi shāng) means to be heart-broken, dejected, or in distress. They are practically pronounced the same but have different tones. 

I wasn't going to post this online in fear of my parents freaking out, but this past week I was hit twice while biking. Thankfully, I was just hit by idiot bikers and not cars or buses (谢天谢地). Both times they weren't paying attention and took a turn... right into me. Oh well. I'm just glad nobody got hurt.

I have a crazy picture of a bike accident (not mine) but I still cannot upload photos. Argh. I will have to bring my computer to campus and try it there. Sorry! I'll keep trying.

Three things I am grateful for:
1. I love when someone I'm talking to uses a vocabulary term that I just learned. 
2. We live right next to tons of shopping centers. It is convenient and fun to 逛街 (guàng jiē translation: [window] shop) after dinner or during a study break.
My teacher mentioned this saying: 饭后走一走，  活到九十九。If you take a walk after eating, you will live to be 99 years old. It rhymes when you say it in Chinese. It's a shame when things like that don't translate. I have been talking walks after dinner to explore our neighborhood (and so I can live until I'm 99). 
3. Fresh fruit stores by our school

Are you going to ride the fried dumpling?

"Are you going to take the 锅贴 (guōtiē) to Beijing?"








Because I accidentally said 锅贴 (guōtiē) instead of 高铁 gāotiě, I accidentally asked my friend if she was going to ride a fried dumpling instead of the high-speed train.

Many of the people in our program went to Beijing for the weekend. It is a quick four hour trip on the high speed train. Because I am volunteer teaching at a migrant school on Friday afternoons and tutor on Sundays, I decided not to go to Beijing. Also, my friend is in town for the weekend.

Today I attended an Education Psychology class conducted in Chinese. Two of the students in the class happened to be the roommates of people in my program. My psychology background definitely helped but I still needed to use my translation app. I could understand most of what the teacher said but when the students answered her questions, I was so lost. I felt like a freshman and crossed my fingers that the teacher wouldn't call me. It was a small class of about 10 girls. Where are all the guys? I am not taking the class with the sole purpose of learning psychology but using it mainly as a method to improve my Chinese. Hopefully by the end of the semester I will understand what is going on.

Earlier this week, I also went to a Positive Psychology class. It was conducted in English and meant for Nanjing University students. Part of me wants to take the class just to interact with locals. It is also fun to people creep and see what a real class in China is like (unlike the Chinese classes I'm taking that is meant for foreigners). Many Chinese kids select their own English names. I met someone named Lilac.

I wish there were more psychology classes on the Gulou campus but most of them are on a campus further away. I think I already have enough on my plate.

Three things I am grateful for:
1. 1.5 Liter bottles of water that cost 2 元 ($0.32 USD) at the convenience store next to our school
We used to joke that if anyone spoke in English and broke the language pledge, we would force them to do shots of China tap water.
2. This was the first week I went to teach an English class at a migrant school (school with 50% migrant workers' children). The kids were so excited and enthusiastic about learning. When we were leaving the school, mobs of kids asked us for our autographs. So strange but cute.
3. I didn't realize this was the weekend by friend was coming in town. Luckily, I am here! It is always nice to see old friends.

Two Months Down

I have been traveling for two months now! On the 24th, I will have been in China for a month.

I am enjoying my Chinese classes. In our program, everyone is required to take Readings in Chinese, Spoken Chinese, and Contemporary Chinese Studies (which is taught in English). I pulled the "hey, I've already graduated card" to opt out of the Contemporary Chinese Studies class. Instead, I have been shopping for alternative classes.

Yesterday I tried to attend an Industrial Psychology class. To my surprise, there was only one student in the classroom. The teacher said not enough students were present so class was canceled for the day. He told me to just come back next week. I talked to my program director about what happened and she said she is not surprised. Her explanation was "This is how China's education system is. It has many issues." Apparently, you cannot register for classes online. They don't have class schedules online either. What?!

Today I somehow found myself in an advanced newspaper reading class. I would have never imagined that I can read a newspaper. I was right. It is pretty hard. However, it doesn't matter if I fail because I've graduated. This is what I've always wanted--to take classes and learn without my grades counting for anything. The article we read talked about the education of poor children in the countryside. (I really think I am unlearning English. Most of the time, Chinese word order is "backwards" or the opposite of English word order. I am having a hard time forming sentences for this post.) Anyway, the professor was telling us how the children's parents go to the cities to earn money to send home and leave the kids with their grandparents. The kids have to hike, sometimes for hours, to the nearest school carrying their own chairs because the school doesn't have any. I know it is real but part of me doesn't want to believe it.

Brief Chinese lesson of the day:

Some things translate easily.

男人不坏， 女人不爱 nán rén bù huài, nǚ rén bù ài
Girls love bad boys.

芝麻开门 zhī ma kāi mén
Sesame open! (Open sesame)

Some things just don't translate.
The other day my classmate told his Chinese roommate he was going to 做咖啡 instead of 冲咖啡. Essentially he said he was going to grow coffee instead of pour it. 做 can mean do, make, or prepare so yes, Chinese can be rather tricky. So many words have the same English meaning but in Chinese they are used for different situations.

One of the first days in class, one of our classmates pointed at his wrist and said he needed to buy a 婊子 (biǎo zi) instead of a 表(biǎo). They are pronounced the same and even look really similar. However, he accidentally told his teacher he needed to buy a prostitute when he meant to say wristwatch. Oops.

Three things I am grateful for:
1. Mandatory 报告 in my Spoken Chinese class each week
I struggle giving speeches in Chinese but I know the practice will help and get easier. Our teacher gives us a vague topic and we can make a presentation on anything regarding said topic. Por ejemplo, this week's topic was 恋爱观 (viewpoint on love). Because I didn't want to talk about my own, I talked about Barbie's 恋爱观. Did you know that Ken has four Olympic gold medals?
2. We had a free kung fu lesson.
A group of four of us went to watch a 4pm class at a martial arts center but arrived at 4:25. Maybe because we are foreigners or maybe they are just nice but they gave us our own private teacher and class. I haven't taken kung fu in probably over 14 years but it was ridiculously fun. I am going to try to find classes closer to where we live.
3. Yesterday I was watching cartoons with my little sister. When I first got here, I tried to read along with the captions at the bottom of the screen but it was too fast. I think the cartoon characters were speaking rather slowly because I could actually follow along. I felt like I had an aha! breakthrough moment.

So, what are you?

What does it mean to be a foreigner in China?

In our Seminar on Living and Learning in China, we discussed our experiences as 外国人 (foreigners).

In our program, a couple of us are of Asian descent. One of my classmates, Lanier, mentioned that she was jealous of the way locals treat us. When I go somewhere, most people speak to me under the assumption that I am fluent in Chinese. Sometimes have to ask them to slow down or repeat sentences.

Since Lanier is white, shopkeepers and 服务员 (service personnel) assume that she speaks little to no Chinese (although her Chinese is better than mine). They look at her differently and speak to her slowly using simple words. She stated that she longed for people to speak to her with the same speed and vocabulary as they use with me. She will never be able to experience China the way I do.

"So, what are you exactly?"

When someone in the states asked me this question, I replied with a snappy, "I am an American woman." But seriously, in the U.S. I get this question quite often. However, in China I've been getting this question 差不多 (more or less) everyday. Although they first assume I'm Chinese, the gig is up as soon as I open my mouth. They are confused as why a Chinese looking person is not fluent in Chinese.

Sometimes I wish I could switch places with Lanier. Sometimes I wish I looked more the part of a foreigner. I wish I had a better reason for not sounding like a native. Maybe then people would understand that yes, I'm Chinese but I grew up in the states.

When people here ask me what I am, I used to answer, "I am an American." This was easier than saying, "My parents grew up in Hong Kong and moved to the states to go to school. I was born in the U.S. and have been there my whole life. My grandaunt, who is from Guangzhou, lived with us and she doesn't speak any English so I grew up hearing Cantonese. I can speak Cantonese but my Mandarin isn't very good. 会听不会说 (I can understand but not speak)."

Perhaps I was adamant about stating my American nationality as a excuse for my poor Chinese. However, thankfully one of the locals taught me a useful phrase. I am a 美籍华人 (Chinese-American).

I am grateful they assume I am fluent. I enjoy conversing with the shopkeepers and random locals. Each conversation is an opportunity to practice my Chinese. I know I will never sound like a native but to improve you have to practice, right?

Also, when shopping it is beneficial to look/seem like you are a local. As soon as they see a foreigner, they jack up the prices and try to rip you off. They assume Americans have money and they try to get as much of it as possible. Because I know they can tell I am a local, I used to avoid shopping at places where you have to haggle. When I am with a local, I have them haggle for me. Because this is not always possible, I am experimenting with haggling tactics. I'm pretty bad at it right now because I feel bad that I don't give them what they ask for. It's not much money. I am aware this sounds stupid.

Now when I go shopping, I use Cantonese to ask them the price of the product and then I "correct" myself and ask again in Mandarin. This way they may assume that I am from Hong Kong or Guangzhou. At least they are aware that I know two dialects of Chinese and are less likely to think I am an American. I believe this has helped so far. I figure it is better than me using Mandarin right off the bat and having them realize I'm obviously a foreigner.

I feel like my writing is getting worse and worse the longer I've been in China. The entire time I have been writing this, I have been thinking in Chinese and then have to translate it to English (hence the random Chinese characters spread throughout.) One of the teachers said, "To learn Chinese, you need to first unlearn English." Mission accomplished. I feel like my English makes less sense than it used to. My apologizes. Maybe a couple posts from now, I'll write it all in Chinese first and then Google translate it. I feel like that is how they come up with the English translations for the signs around China. I will have to make an Engrish signs album.

Three things I am grateful for:
1. We went to eat delicious 包子 (steamed stuffed bun) for lunch. My favorite noodle type had 粉丝(vermicelli noodles) stuffing. They were hot, fresh, and cost 1 元 which is less than $0.16 USD.
2. I got a temporary residence permit to stay here until February 28, 2013.
3. I went to a kungfu class yesterday with some of my classmates. Although we are all ridiculously sore today, it was wicked fun.